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How to Make Your Marriage a Lifelong Love Affair What makes a woman fascinating to her husband? What is happiness in marriage for a woman?
These are just two of the questions Helen B. Andelin answers in the bestselling classic that has already brought new happiness and life to millions of marriages. Fascinating Womanhood offers timeless wisdom, practical advice, and old- How to Make Your Marriage a Lifelong Love Affair What makes a woman fascinating to her husband? What is happiness in marriage for a woman? These are just two of the questions Helen B.
Andelin answers in the bestselling classic that has already brought new happiness and life to millions of marriages. Fascinating Womanhood offers timeless wisdom, practical advice, and old-fashioned values to meet the needs and challenges of today’s fascinating woman. Inside you’ll learn: ∑ What traits today’s men find irresistible in a woman ∑ How to awaken a man’s deepest feelings of love ∑ Eight rules for a successful relationship ∑ How to rekindle your love life ∑ How to bring out the best in your man—and reap the rewards ∑ Plus special advice for the working woman—and much more! Fascinating Womanhood offers guidance for a new generation of women—happy, fulfilled, adored and cherished—who want to rediscover the magic of their own feminine selves.
Ok, my grandmother wrote this book. (No kidding - my mother's mother) so I kind of grew up with it and this is what I have to say about it: This is a very important, and very helpfull book about discovering who you are as a woman, and how to deal with men. I only gave it four stars because there are a couple of minor things in it that need to be updated, but my grandmother (who is still alive at 88) is so old that she refuses to change anything. Despite all that, I read this book through for the Ok, my grandmother wrote this book. (No kidding - my mother's mother) so I kind of grew up with it and this is what I have to say about it: This is a very important, and very helpfull book about discovering who you are as a woman, and how to deal with men. I only gave it four stars because there are a couple of minor things in it that need to be updated, but my grandmother (who is still alive at 88) is so old that she refuses to change anything.
Despite all that, I read this book through for the first time when I was twelve and it changed my life. I believe in its basic teachings and I'm grateful to have a better sense of what a woman is.
It has made me so much happier. It helps my marriage and it helps my self-esteem. I refer to this book often and I truly feel that my grandmother was inspired.
You have to read it through, though, to get the full idea of what she was trying to tell women. Trust me on this one when I say it's an important read.
There's also a book she wrote called 'Fascinating Girl' which is directed towards young single women, whereas this one is really for married women. Archane guide to playing your husband: e.g. Sit on his lap and talk in a babyish voice when you want something from him; go to bed in your makeup, then slip out of bed to clean it off after your husband falls asleep, then wake up before him to reapply it before he wakes; practice laughing so you sound like a 'brook trickling over pebbles'; keep the children quiet, clean and away from their dad after gets home from work; always tell your husband he is very strong, talk about his broad shoulders a Archane guide to playing your husband: e.g. Sit on his lap and talk in a babyish voice when you want something from him; go to bed in your makeup, then slip out of bed to clean it off after your husband falls asleep, then wake up before him to reapply it before he wakes; practice laughing so you sound like a 'brook trickling over pebbles'; keep the children quiet, clean and away from their dad after gets home from work; always tell your husband he is very strong, talk about his broad shoulders and large biceps, etc. You get the idea. I read it when I was a young teen and was thoroughly creeped out.
This book is widely misunderstood as a book on how to oppress women by making them a servant and doormat to their husbands. It is actually a very enlightening book on the differences between men and women, and how the feminist movement has made all of us women diminish the importance of not only being a wife and mother, but also a homemaker.
Women are never encouraged to put up with abuse, but also this teaches how women may unknowingly be annoying and driving their husbands away from them. The This book is widely misunderstood as a book on how to oppress women by making them a servant and doormat to their husbands.
It is actually a very enlightening book on the differences between men and women, and how the feminist movement has made all of us women diminish the importance of not only being a wife and mother, but also a homemaker. Women are never encouraged to put up with abuse, but also this teaches how women may unknowingly be annoying and driving their husbands away from them. The best part of the book is understanding how men think. Most of the things in the book will make you want to throw up. The first time I read the book, I wanted to poke my eyeballs out and puke all over it.
However, just read it with an open, humble mind, and you will see that it is how to understand men and women, and how to be giving and unselfish, WITHOUT BEING A DOORMAT! And the best and most annoying part of this book is that it actually works. Read the other reviews - women either love it or hate it. 2013 *Update!* hahahaha I read this book and I used it's advice, and it really helped my marriage, by helping me to see that even after I put my husband first, found all his good qualities, served him, behaved and looked more feminine, sacrificed for him, etc, the only thing that changed was there was less fighting and he got his way with everything. It helped me to see that I was in such an abusive relationship that I would never be happy or treated well. We divorced in 2011 and I feel sooo much better.
There will be no second guessing that I didn't try my best, that I was selfish or mean to him. It's crystal clear to me that I was a great wife and the problem was with him. So to add to Ms Andelin's advice, I really think that if a woman is married to a normal, halfway decent man, but she is acting like an idiot, and then she tries some of this stuff, he will change and treat her like gold. THAT IS WHAT WE NEED, OUR MEN TO TREAT US LIKE GOLD. I have since dated other men and I do agree that men need to be treated with respect. I think in our feminist society, we disrespect and devalue men a lot. If they are disrespectful to us, they need to be kicked to the curb.
I will not have my daughters growing up thinking that they should wait on a man hand and foot so that they can be treated like a doormat. I kept waiting for my husband to be kind to me and to treat me like an equal, and he instead continued to be a huge asshole.
Ahhhhh that feels sooo good to get off my chest. So read the book with an open mind. It's okay to change yourself into a better person to make your husband happy, as long as he is a decent person and has the desire to change into a better person to make you happy. A friend jokingly asked me to read this book or I mostly likely never would have done so. All I can say is that no earnest God-loving, Christ-focused woman would ever follow the manipulative teachings of this book.
Instead, it appeals to those women who long to wield dominion over their husbands rather than truly partner with them. It teaches women how to cheat their husbands out of the very things men need most like honesty, open-communication, and intimacy based on Christ-centered teachings.
T A friend jokingly asked me to read this book or I mostly likely never would have done so. All I can say is that no earnest God-loving, Christ-focused woman would ever follow the manipulative teachings of this book. Instead, it appeals to those women who long to wield dominion over their husbands rather than truly partner with them.
It teaches women how to cheat their husbands out of the very things men need most like honesty, open-communication, and intimacy based on Christ-centered teachings. The instruction in this book is utterly heartbreaking. Perhaps I'm naive but I didn't realize the extent to which some people would go to impose their will upon another. This book teaches women how to use cunning and artifice to obtain what the author calls a 'righteous power' over their husbands. I was saddened, sickened, and even brought to tears. Fascinating Womanhood is an example of evil practices being hailed as noble and even necessary.
This book could do eternal damage to marriages and individuals. Its very design pulls adherents away from the teachings of Christ and into the realm of game-playing, manipulation, and deceit. Honor, fidelity, integrity and genuine love can never, ever be built upon a foundation of dishonesty. I learned absolutely nothing from this book, unless you count that I found out that Helen Andelin is crazy and, in her mind, probably lives in the 1500s. This book teaches women how to be submissive and weak, because that's the way a 'true woman' is, as well as to be half-retarded, in order to treat a man right.
According to Andelin, men must be catered to all of their lives, and find a weak woman fascinating because they want to scoop her up in their arms and protect her, forever. This would be I learned absolutely nothing from this book, unless you count that I found out that Helen Andelin is crazy and, in her mind, probably lives in the 1500s. This book teaches women how to be submissive and weak, because that's the way a 'true woman' is, as well as to be half-retarded, in order to treat a man right. According to Andelin, men must be catered to all of their lives, and find a weak woman fascinating because they want to scoop her up in their arms and protect her, forever.
This would be great as an advice book about 200 years ago, but now, it is ridiculous, and dated compared with the way we live our lives now. I also take issue with the author because, towards the back of the book, possibly in the summary (?), she suggests that if a man is abusive to you (and yes, she also includes physically), instead of LEAVING THE MOTHERFUCKER, you should sit down and think how you may have wounded his pride to make him react in this way. In other words, girls, IT'S YOUR FAULT!
This book did do one thing, however-it made me glad that my mother, grandma, and aunts raised me to think big, succeed in the real world, and be a strong, independent woman. This book had me excited and angry the whole time. I can see where the book was supposed to lead women in marriage. With all of my heart I understand that a man is the patriarch of the home. However, I think that so many women have been misguided in reading this and I feel sad. I am grateful to have a husband that I can discuss what I read with. I would of believed everything I read if it were not for his input.
Do I recommend the book? Well, if you feel that a woman should have no voice and tha This book had me excited and angry the whole time. I can see where the book was supposed to lead women in marriage. With all of my heart I understand that a man is the patriarch of the home. However, I think that so many women have been misguided in reading this and I feel sad. I am grateful to have a husband that I can discuss what I read with.
I would of believed everything I read if it were not for his input. Do I recommend the book?
Well, if you feel that a woman should have no voice and that they make nice floor mats.then by all means I say, read. To my daughters.my you all walk with your head high, voice strong, laugh loud, and be treated the way Heavenly Father intended for you to be treated. As with any book of this type you take what you need at the time and ignore the rest. There are some things that I didn't agree with, but the overall message is about how men and women are different and how they compliment each other. This is not a book for those deep into the feminist movement, but it is for those who are proud to be a woman. It is quite contriversial and I know that a few years ago I wouldn't have liked it. It is a proactive book and is not about changing anyone, but yourself As with any book of this type you take what you need at the time and ignore the rest.
There are some things that I didn't agree with, but the overall message is about how men and women are different and how they compliment each other. This is not a book for those deep into the feminist movement, but it is for those who are proud to be a woman.
It is quite contriversial and I know that a few years ago I wouldn't have liked it. It is a proactive book and is not about changing anyone, but yourself to make your life more harmonious. I'm glad I read it. I think it has made me a better person, mother, and wife.
Despite the low rating I give it, I actually recommend everyone read this at some point. Partly because some of the ideas are a little on the ridiculous side (like taking cues from how small children behave as a way to act angry or get what you want), and partly to demonstrate why we (and I say this in a general all human sense) need feminism.
Putting the onus of being the breadwinner & doing the finances on the guy while leaving all of the homemaking & childrearing to the woman may work Despite the low rating I give it, I actually recommend everyone read this at some point. Partly because some of the ideas are a little on the ridiculous side (like taking cues from how small children behave as a way to act angry or get what you want), and partly to demonstrate why we (and I say this in a general all human sense) need feminism. Putting the onus of being the breadwinner & doing the finances on the guy while leaving all of the homemaking & childrearing to the woman may work for some but it's definitely not the ideal that will work for everyone. Helen Andelin also says in a later chapter that women in the workforce are the root of most of modern society's ills- divorce, broken homes, etc. I don't know what to say about this book. There is so much to criticize that I could write a novel.
Mostly the book makes me sad. To Andelin, a man is so breakable that he is like a delicate piece of porcelain. Something you must wrap in cotton and store on a high shelf. A baby you must coddle and protect from the real world. He is so weak, and his self confidence so fragile, that he will crumble unless he is kept in a world of delusion.
A woman, in Andelin's mind, should be 1 part helpless idiot I don't know what to say about this book. There is so much to criticize that I could write a novel. Mostly the book makes me sad.
To Andelin, a man is so breakable that he is like a delicate piece of porcelain. Something you must wrap in cotton and store on a high shelf. A baby you must coddle and protect from the real world. He is so weak, and his self confidence so fragile, that he will crumble unless he is kept in a world of delusion. A woman, in Andelin's mind, should be 1 part helpless idiot, 1 part doormat, and 1 part manipulative child. If she wants a man to love and adore her, she must cater to a man's every whim while always discounting her every need. She mustn't display a scintilla of independence or self sufficiency.
She must never wear denim, be good at math, or have frank/factual conversations. She should never pursue masculine lines of work such as carpentry or mechanics. Nor should she have a say in the life of her family. To be anything but a stupid helpless child is to discard your feminine qualities for masculine ones. For, you see, an independent, smart, capable woman turns men off. She castrates them. She is actually serious.
As I read, I kept thinking, 'Who would even want a man like that?! What an unbelievable baby!!!' I'd rather be a crazy cat lady than be forced to create the delusion this insane woman thinks we should live in. Furthermore, why can't a man be protective of an independent/self-sufficient woman simply because he WANTS TO???? Why can't he do things for the woman he loves simply because it's what a kind, loving husband would do? Why must he be prodded into it by some inane melodrama? The only good thing about this book is that as I read I was repeatedly reminded just how LUCKY I am to have a real man.
A man whose genitals don't wilt in the presence of a capable woman. ------------------------------------------ Another terribly annoying thing about this book is that every chapter is concluded with a sales pitch. A sort of infomercial approach. 'My marriage was an abysmal failure.
But I tried Fascinating Womanhood and now our marriage is the envy of the neighborhood!!!' They made me want to gag.
So I skipped most of them. At first this book seems like it’s just an outdated method for living as the sweet, demure wife we all picture when we think of the 1950’s. But really, this book is a manual to make women desperate to improve their marriage become complicit in their own subjugation. There are so many things that make me angry about this book, but I can condense them into three main points.
1) FW is ill-conceived and poorly supported. At first it seems like FW is very well thought out and organized. Andelin outlin At first this book seems like it’s just an outdated method for living as the sweet, demure wife we all picture when we think of the 1950’s. But really, this book is a manual to make women desperate to improve their marriage become complicit in their own subjugation. There are so many things that make me angry about this book, but I can condense them into three main points. 1) FW is ill-conceived and poorly supported. At first it seems like FW is very well thought out and organized.
Andelin outlines all her main arguments and the traits a fascinating woman should acquire alongside the retro outline of a woman. But at a closer look, this book, which is supposed be a manual for becoming the perfect wife, is so fraught with contradictions that there is no clear way to know how to act. If things aren’t working for you, Andelin’s tells you to refer back to the book and work on perfecting the behaviors of a fascinating woman. You could turn in circles your entire life trying to figure out exactly how to save your marriage by this method. To make matters worse, many FW character traits are mutually exclusive. For example, Andelin says a woman should be competent enough to manage household affairs but maintain a child-like dependence on her husband.
How on earth could this be the same person? Though put forward as an authoritative study, beyond teaching FW classes from her garage, Andelin has no professional background in psychology or marriage counseling. When illustrating points, she never uses scientific studies on behavior and she never points to clinical research. That doesn’t stop her from claiming the FW method works.
She proves it with antidotes – “I know of two women,” “A man of my acquaintance,” “Students in my classes report” She also quotes works of fiction, such as David Copperfield, and other fiction written by men. She claims them as evidence supporting the value of the character traits possessed by a “fascinating woman.” 2) One-dimensional and offensive assumptions about women and men passed off as unquestionable truths Andelin has the audacity to claim that her method is the only way to find happiness. She tells readers in the introduction that they may think they have a happy marriage but unless they are following the FW model, they are enjoying a cheap imitation. She repeatedly says that the perceived happiness of more liberated women is nothing more than “weeds” when compared to the “flowers” possessed by the FW woman. Andelin has a ridiculously low opinion of women.
She claims women can only find happiness when loved and adored by her husband. She repeatedly insinuates that women are not and cannot be intellectual equals with men. She advocates against any education for women beyond the domestic and cultural arts. She encourages women to hide their opinions, hide their true emotions and hide any skill that could threaten the supremacy of their husband. If a woman has obtained a more “masculine” skill set, Andelin says this has been acquired unnaturally. She tells her readers to abandon any efforts to further develop or apply that talent or skill.
Why do women need to be so subservient? Because, according to Andelin, the only way to truly get the love of your husband, the love you so desperately need in order to be happy, you have to make him feel like a real man. Andelin encourages women to compliment and praise her husband’s masculine prowess and even his virility. She encourages wives to accentuate their weakness so her husband can feel strong, powerful and capable. Securing their husband’s masculinity is paramount to the fascinating woman, and Andelin says anything a woman does that is remotely capable and independent threatens her husband’s dominance. I know Andelin is trying to say how strong men are, but she achieves the exact opposite.
Her characterization paints men as extremely insecure and weak. She also assumes that a man could never value and love a wife that can stand on her own two feet and pull her own weight in the marriage. 3) Men are never to be questioned, they are never at fault and they are never responsible for their bad behavior.
Throughout the book I had a nagging feeling that something truly evil lurked between the lines. The way Andelin kept saying women were responsible for the way their husband treated them made be very uneasy.
By the end of the book my suspicions were confirmed -- the evil revealed itself in the chapter called “Child-like-ness.” In this chapter Andelin tells women to never show their true anger. If their husband is a jerk, their only recourse is to be “saucy” and “cute.” She gives examples of grown women showing their anger by pouting, tossing their curls, and in short, behaving like a little girl throwing a temper tantrum.
Andelin promotes this child-like behavior as the only legitimate way for a woman to preserve her dignity when husbands “mistreat” them. Yes, some men may respond to his wife’s efforts to turn herself into a “fascinating woman” with greater love and affection. And some men may take advantage of a mousey, subservient wife and walk all over her. And some men are evil and will dominate and terrorize their wives with emotional and physical abuse. I kept waiting for Andelin to draw the line at abuse.
But she never does. In fact, a quick Internet search uncovered the FW website, where Andelin hosted a Q&A. I found two examples of women living in abusive relationships turning to Andelin for advice. She actually tells them it is their fault their husbands abuse them.
She tells them to return to the FW book and try harder to be a better wife. But remember how confusing and contradictory the book is?
How many women have stayed in abusive relationships on the advice of Helen Andelin? How many women keep searching the book for the answer, believing for years that they are the ones at fault. I shudder to think how much blood is on this woman’s hands. I see a lot of spoler on tgis book so here is my review of it! I have read it, and i am as transparant as a person can be.
I would read and tell my husband what i read, and asked him if he wanted me to try it out. And i tried everything the book would say-with him knowing ahead of time- and he loved it! He reminds me sometimes that i should go back and re-read it. And let me tell you wifes- i have a great marriage. My husband calls any moment he gets available from work, he takes me t I see a lot of spoler on tgis book so here is my review of it! I have read it, and i am as transparant as a person can be. I would read and tell my husband what i read, and asked him if he wanted me to try it out.
And i tried everything the book would say-with him knowing ahead of time- and he loved it! He reminds me sometimes that i should go back and re-read it. And let me tell you wifes- i have a great marriage. My husband calls any moment he gets available from work, he takes me to dates, he is a great father to our son, he never looks at other woman, and if i try to compare myself to others he refuses to listen.
But he was genuenly impressed with the changes when i read the book- Im a control freak and i boss everyone around me- so when i started to act more like a woman and depend on him instead of controling him he was ready to put me on pedestrial. I totaly recomend to all woman to read it especially if you have problems in your marriage.
It will show you the mistakes you are making- and teach you how to change! Please dont take the book the wrong way- we all try to control our husbands, they listen better and wanna do more for you when you act feminine and in need of a hero, than if you pit your foot down and argue with him. If you have seen The Fireproof movie- this book is like that. And dont tell me that he manipilated his wife to come back to him, no he won her love and appriciation, this book teaches you the same thing.
Sorry you have to hear this from a woman who doesnt have divorce papers on the table and never had a cheating drinking and abusing husband. I have 3 sisters and my oldest is pastors wife, she read it to help woman in trouble and after discussing with her husband she decided to recommend it to all woman so we are forwarned, so me and my sisters all have read it.
And have been telling our husbands what we read and believe me, insted of feeling cheated or controlled they felt honored. Dont listen to spoilers, read it and help yourself and your husband, you will find true love and passion toward each other again.
This book is creepy. Andelin has taken true things about the relationship between men and women and turned them into a burdensome set of rules. All of her advice is on changing behavior. Nothing on changing the heart. Why is a wife supposed to submit to her husband's authority? Because he's a male?
Paul says a woman submits because she does not fear men, she fears God. 'You are Sarah's daughters if you obey without fear.' Instead, Andelin offers a works-righteousness approach to marriage, he This book is creepy. Andelin has taken true things about the relationship between men and women and turned them into a burdensome set of rules.
All of her advice is on changing behavior. Nothing on changing the heart. Why is a wife supposed to submit to her husband's authority? Because he's a male? Paul says a woman submits because she does not fear men, she fears God. 'You are Sarah's daughters if you obey without fear.'
Instead, Andelin offers a works-righteousness approach to marriage, hence the stupid rules on how to wear denim, tossing your curls, and never looking like a woman who, heaven forbid! Kills her own snakes.
The testimonials in this book are nauseating: one of them is a woman is tolerates her husband's drunkenness. Another wife ends a dispute with a pillow fight instead of real reconciliation. A couple women retrieve their husbands from prostitutes--but their husbands don't repent of their sin: that's not a relationship of trust! So I did a little research. Helen Andelin is LDS--hence the gaping absence of any mention of Jesus, the sparse references to the Apostle Paul,no discussion of sin nature or the Holy Spirit, and her silly analysis of women's 'angelic' nature. This is entirely a gimmicky DIY approach to relationships, it leaves marital success entirely up to the woman, and it will make you depressed when you can't pull off just the right pout.
Read Elizabeth Elliot, Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Paul David Tripp, Nancy Wilson, Carolyn Mahaney, Elizabeth George, Martha Peace, or Barbara Hughes. When I borrowed this book from my mother to read for book club, she told me it was wonderful, while my older sister said it was 'evil.' It seemed that those were two extreme reactions to the same book, and so I went into reading it trying to keep an open mind. And for the first 65 pages, I was actually okay with it. It might be a tad outdated (written in the early 1960's), but I agreed with the theory behind it: which was being kind and loving to your husband, and not nagging or thinking you can When I borrowed this book from my mother to read for book club, she told me it was wonderful, while my older sister said it was 'evil.' It seemed that those were two extreme reactions to the same book, and so I went into reading it trying to keep an open mind. And for the first 65 pages, I was actually okay with it.
It might be a tad outdated (written in the early 1960's), but I agreed with the theory behind it: which was being kind and loving to your husband, and not nagging or thinking you can change him. It was when the author got into her practical application of these principles, that I began getting angry. I kept trying to keep that open mind, but the more it spoke about giving all the 'power' in the marriage to your husband and letting him rule over you, the more I got my back up. You see, I believe that marriage is a partnership - an equal partnership - where we each come into it with varied strengths that will help each other grow and make up for our own weaknesses. I believe that we should put each other first, and although the book said that I should put my husband first, it went on to say that I should expect no such treatment from him. I do not want to fool my husband into loving and adoring me by holding back my feelings and opinion, by pretending incompetence and ignorance, and by letting him have the only say in our marriage and family. I want him to love me for my strengths, and in spite of my weaknesses.
I want BOTH of us to strive to show love and appreciation for the other - it is a two way street. I could go on and on. (Besides the fact that I feel like this book goes against what the leaders of my church say about marriage and how men and women should treat each other.) And as one last little note, as an Army wife, even if I had agreed with this book and wanted to put it into practice, my husband being in the Army would make it impossible - unless I wanted to let our entire life fall apart. Okay yes, this book saved my marriage - transformed it from awful to wonderful; and I do highly recommend it; and I did write a blog based on the book.
That said, it must be taken with a grain of salt. I firmly believe that the principles are sound; but some of the suggested applications are just silly. Two examples: To show that your man is more 'manly' than you are do some sort of 'masculine' thing (like hunting, or fixing a cabinet) badly on purpose so that he can 'fix' it for you; eh, if tha Okay yes, this book saved my marriage - transformed it from awful to wonderful; and I do highly recommend it; and I did write a blog based on the book. That said, it must be taken with a grain of salt. I firmly believe that the principles are sound; but some of the suggested applications are just silly. Two examples: To show that your man is more 'manly' than you are do some sort of 'masculine' thing (like hunting, or fixing a cabinet) badly on purpose so that he can 'fix' it for you; eh, if that doesn't bother you fine. But it would seriously bother me.
However, I can admire plenty of things that my husband does, and does better than me [lifting heavy objects is one example:]. A second silly suggestion is that you don't wear 'masculine' fabrics like denim or corduroy or herringbone. I say - look like a female. Though I have no problem with women dressing to impress men, it should bring them pleasure also. And frankly, some women look stunning in herringbone and horrible in ruffles. I would rather wrestle a bear with venomous cobras for hands.
Eat a live ring octopus. Bathe in a vat of all manners of acid. Swim naked through man of wars than follow the advice in this book and have a marriage like in this book. Who would want this? People gripe about how bad feminism is, but at least it's not saying men are like babies you have to faun over and worship. That they get to have interests and passions and you just get to be interested in them and what they are doing.
I'm sorry, b I would rather wrestle a bear with venomous cobras for hands. Eat a live ring octopus.
Bathe in a vat of all manners of acid. Swim naked through man of wars than follow the advice in this book and have a marriage like in this book. Who would want this? People gripe about how bad feminism is, but at least it's not saying men are like babies you have to faun over and worship. That they get to have interests and passions and you just get to be interested in them and what they are doing. I'm sorry, but the people who support this sort of nonsense do more damage to the family unit than a parade of half nekkid bra burning amazons and gay dudes in chaps making out publicly ever could.
How can you have a healthy relationship based on love and trust if you're stuck married to a man who won't help you with the children, who is encouraged to be selfish and worse of all these folks think that all men are like this. They are the ones who are really sexist against men. I have a love-hate relationship with this book. There are some great insights and wisdom found in these pages.
There are also some things that if a person said this to me they would have unleashed some wicked fury. I think the thing that I love most about this book is the quote from the author on the back. 'A loving marriage is the foundation of a happy family, and a happy family the foundation of a stable society. Most of the problems in this world stem from troubled homes. Gta San Andreas Cleo Skins Download. If we are to have pe I have a love-hate relationship with this book. There are some great insights and wisdom found in these pages.
There are also some things that if a person said this to me they would have unleashed some wicked fury. I think the thing that I love most about this book is the quote from the author on the back. 'A loving marriage is the foundation of a happy family, and a happy family the foundation of a stable society.
Most of the problems in this world stem from troubled homes. If we are to have peace in the world, we must begin at home.' Now that is sound advice. According to the author, the ideal woman (from a man's point of view) has the following qualities: she understands men, has inner happiness, has a worthy character, is a domestic goddess, is feminine, radiates happiness, has radiant health and is childlike (not childish). I can more or less buy that, and through the book she explains how to gain these qualities. I found the part about understanding men very interesting. She explains why you can't change a man and trying to do so is futile.
A man needs to feel accepted by the woman he loves, his home a place where he can feel secure. If this happens he will love her more.
Sure, a man has faults, but so does every woman, he doesn't want you to point them out. If you try to change him, he will only get defensive. Appreciate what is good in him and you are more likely to bring out his better qualities. In this section I also read many things that made me realize so that's exactly why Mr. X are so very unhappy. And there were a couple things that I have been doing right and it explained why they work.
Good to know. I liked that she strongly encourages women to improve themselves, and not just in ways that are obviously for pleasing their men. Women need to have self-control, unselfishness, charity, humility, diligence, patience, moral courage, and honesty. They need to get enough sleep, exercise, eat properly, drink lots of water, take time to relax and have a healthy mental attitude. They should keep up on current events and spend time reading good books.
They should find joy in the small and simple things in life. However, these things do aid to make a woman fascinating to a man. Every woman can improve in at least one of these areas.
Now for the things I didn't like about this book. In fact these quotes made me so angry that I highlighted them in my book. I never do that. 'If chivalry is dead, women have killed it.
They have killed it by becoming capable, efficient and independent.' Ok, I think that I could rant for a long time about why I have issues with that statement, but I'll sum it up in two points.
1) A man should be chivalrous because it is a reflection of his own character, not because of any quality or lack thereof in a woman that he should be courteous to. 2)What in the world is wrong with being capable and efficient? Is it better to be incapable and inefficient? 'Oh help, I am a woman and can do nothing in a satisfactory manner. As I am now so crippled in all facets of my being you should now love me and put me on a pedestal.' 'A man's feeling of worth can be undermined when he sees women in the workforce doing a better job than he, advancing to a higher position, or earning more pay.' If he were a real man, he'd grow a back bone and get over it.
Does a man really feel less about himself when he sees someone else doing well? He should either be content with his efforts or try to improve. There are lots of men and women out there who are better at or have more of a lot of things than myself, but that is not a reflection of me, my abilities or my worth as a person. Comparing yourself to other people will only make you unhappy. Throughout the book she also talks about the importance of a woman staying at home with her children.
That is a woman's place and not elsewhere. And she gives many arguments that we've all heard before.
Now I agree that it is important for a woman to be at home with her kids, especially when they are young. And I do believe that the job of mother is the most important that a woman can have, however that doesn't mean that other jobs that she may have are so unimportant that they can be ignored.
What would happen if I and every other mother that worked in the hospital quit? Many units would have to shut down entirely. Who would be there to care for sick children?
Who would be there to assist women in labor, or care for them after delivery? Who would care for every other person who is in the hospital? Not nearly enough people I can promise you that. I also detested many of the testimonials that are given throughout the book. If my husband started kissing my feet and saying silly sappy things, I would think he had hit his head or been possessed by aliens or something. It gives numerous examples of husbands who did things that a woman shouldn't put up with, but they just started applying the principles of FW and now everything is bliss.
Some women need to grow some back bones too, or tune into reality. And the book is very much in love with itself. 'Fascinating Womanhood can save any marriage'. Having said all of that, I still think that it was worth the read. There are many principles here that if applied can improve your marriage and your life in general. However, some of the advice must be taken with a grain of salt.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم لو قررتي تقري كتاب واحد بس عن العلاقة الزوجية و فهم شريك الحياة و ازاي تعيشي احلى حياة كأنثى و زوجة فمفيش أحسن من الكتاب ده!!!!! أولا شكرا جدا للي عرفتني على الكتاب شكرا يا سارة بجد من الأعماق فرق معايا جدا جدا جدا ياريت كل بنات و نساء العالم يقروه الكتاب بيحارب كل افكار حركات المرأة و المساواة بين الرجل و المرأة و بيبين لكل ست عشر أسرار مهمة جدا لتكون أسعد زوجة و أفضل 'أنثى' الكتاب ده بيرجعك لاصلك اللي بسبب حياتنا الرجولية قوي بدانا ننساها او نتخلى عنها بيعرفك ازاي تحققي طاعة ا بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم لو قررتي تقري كتاب واحد بس عن العلاقة الزوجية و فهم شريك الحياة و ازاي تعيشي احلى حياة كأنثى و زوجة فمفيش أحسن من الكتاب ده!!!!! As a new Bride in the 70's I was given this books as a 'guidebook'. I read it and became angry and then wanted to gag and throw it against the wall. Thank goodness I was raised by parents that didn't teach me that a Woman is sub-subservient to her husband. I must have thrown the book away, as I could not find it to re-read for a Book group choice. I did find an old copy to re-read and the same feelings surfaced.
I waited until after Book Group discussion to write a review, to see if I was enli As a new Bride in the 70's I was given this books as a 'guidebook'. I read it and became angry and then wanted to gag and throw it against the wall. Thank goodness I was raised by parents that didn't teach me that a Woman is sub-subservient to her husband. I must have thrown the book away, as I could not find it to re-read for a Book group choice. I did find an old copy to re-read and the same feelings surfaced.
I waited until after Book Group discussion to write a review, to see if I was enlightened about the book. Many had read the newer 'updated' version by the author, who was then in her 80's, it seemed that most of the updates were testimonials and not much had changed her mind in her approach to a wife has the up most duty to serve and please her husband. The best message of the book is that you can feel much happiness in your life if you do actively 'get past yourself and your needs' and serve and help others to be happy. This I do know is true. There are many books out there the reaffirm this, and have a much kinder and less condescending narrative. I am certain I was born in the generation I was supposed to be.:).